The third year of grief

The third year of grief

In Loving Memories of My Late Grandfather (2001 – 2075)

 

Here’s the link to the blogs I wrote for my Grandfather

“Memories”

“Losing a loved one”

 

What belongings do people cherish because it reminds them of loved ones who have passed away? I guess remembering isn’t limited to a specific thing, place, or behaviour. A sensation, a smell, or music can sometimes bring up memories of someone we’ve lost. We all have our unique ways of remembering those we care about. Remembering a loved one is a personal choice and every act of memory doesn’t need to be magnificent. Losing a particular life surely leaves a void in anyone’s life. Someone who was a part of your life is gone and you feel empty. The significance of this loss is that it cannot be replaced.

Why is grieving so difficult? Although each person’s grieving is unique, a common question that arises after a loved one passes away is, Why did this happen? Why him or her? Why me? Why now? Why in that way? Such questions frequently linger for much too long.

I lost my grandfather on August 1, 2018. It was the first time I lost someone close to me. The first year of grief for me was spent adjusting to life and a world without my grandfather. My grandfather and I had a close relationship, and the first several months were the most difficult. It was heartbreaking to go through all of his stuff. It was tough to keep focused at first when grieving, especially when he was there in everything I did or thought about. It’s been 3 years since he left us and it still hurts like it was yesterday. There is not a day that goes by that I don’t think of him. Learning to cope without him is the hardest part, even years later. 

 

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